Are you in a relationship with someone, and how would you measure where you are and the progress that you are making?
Some people would say, the fun you have with each other, some would say the level of compatibility with each other, others would say the plans that you are making towards the future.
The truth is, there are countless answers to that question.
Here are some great ways to measure your relationship, and whether it is going where you want it go.
There is mutual trust
It’s been said countless times, that where there is no trust, there is no relationship. Trust is definitely one of the key factors when it comes to having a great relationship, and trust does not happen overnight.
It takes time to build, and it can take a moment to be gone.
When you are comfortable with your person and the relationship that you have, it’s a good place to be. Then there will be no sneaking around, trying to get into each others phones to see who is chatting with whom.
There will be no insecurities about the relationship, and that’s a beautiful place to be.
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Being who you truly are
In the beginning of most relationships, most people will try to be the most amazing person they can be to impress the other person. Most people will be the better versions of themselves to get the other person to like them.
As time goes on, the true people and true personalities begin coming out.
You are in a great relationship when you can completely be yourself with your person, and they can be themselves with you.
Yes, parts of ourselves may not be amazing, but when there’s no more lies about who you are, and you are just your transparent and vulnerable self, that’s a great place to be.
Encouraging each other
Being in a great relationship means that you will encourage and support each other through life and through the dreams that you both have.
This means being able to listen to them when they need you to (without judgement or giving out advice that they didn’t ask for). It also means encouraging them and cheering them on whey they need that from you.
It also means being sensitive to them, and their needs. If you can be friends and lovers in your relationship, it’s an awesome place to be.
Make each other laugh
Being able to make each other laugh and smile in a relationship is a great quality. But that can come when you have understanding for each other, and when you know each other well enough to gel.
This comes after time, when you know your person well enough to know what will put a smile on their face, when they have had a bad day, or when to really make them crack up.
It’s a beautiful thing.
It’s about us, not just you
When you are in that great relationship, a lot of the time things stop being about just you, to being about the two of you.
I am not suggesting that you get lost in that person, I am saying that you incorporate your partner into your life, and it becomes about the needs of the two of you, not just about what you want.
Love is selfless, and when you love someone in that deep level, you will consider their feelings, their needs and their wants.
Accepting each other’s flaws
This one is huge. There is no perfect person in this world, and we all have our flaws.
But what we do so often is to point out someone’s flaws instead of recognizing our own flaws and working on them.
When you are in a good relationship, you will accept your partners flaws, work on your flaws and not take offence when your partner lovingly points out yours. This of course must work both ways.
In the end, we are all a work in progress.
Knowing each other well
When you are in a relationship that’s going in the right direction, you will get to a point where you know where the other is, what makes them upset, what makes them laugh, what makes them sad, and all those other things.
To know this about your partner will also take time, it’s a love dance that you have to do with your partner as you learn more about each other.
Leaving the past in the past
If you want to progress in your relationship and grow, you must leave the past where it belongs . . . in the past. This includes your partners love life, this includes fights that you have had, this includes past mistakes.
One of the most frustrating things in a relationship is to have past issues being dragged into the present. Don’t do that.
Planning a future together
Do you see a future with the person that you are with?
Do you guys have similar goals when it comes to the future that you both want? Can you live with your person every single day?
If you are thinking long term, your personalities have to be similar, you have to be compatible, you must have the same goals.
Relationships can be awesome if you have found someone great, and if you are someone great for that person. You should expect what you are willing to give in a relationship.
If you and our partner have some of these 9 points going for you, then you can be able to build a relationship that is truly amazing.
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