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What To Do When He Pulls Away

You have probably had this happen to you before, when you start seeing a future in the relationship that you are in, and then suddenly your boyfriend tells you that he needs some space or actually he just starts pulling away.
A lot of us are left wondering what to do when he pulls away, as when you love someone you want to make it work as much as you possibly can.It is definitely one of the most terrible things to have to go through, when you think that you are building a future with someone, and for them to suddenly pull away. Suddenly they do not have time for you, or worse they are not even taking your calls. Fear can set in, at least it did with me, as I saw this as a sign that he wants out of the relationship, and boy, was I right.

In order to know what to do when he pulls away, it is crucial to understand why he is doing it in the first place.  Guys can get turned off by the things that women do, or the way we behave at times. If the relationship is fairly new, and the woman in his life does something that he does not like, it is easy for a guy to just start ignoring the relationship and the woman. He is doing this so that he is not the one who actually tells the woman that he wants out, that from his behaviour she can tell he is not interested at all. It is a great frustration to have to figure out what is happening, and a heart can end up broken.

A lot of women make the mistake of thinking that if they just pretend like its not happening, it can go away. But the truth is that it will not, in fact, if you do not take action, you can kiss your boyfriend and that relationship goodbye. If you are in a situation like that, and you do not want to lose him, you have to contain the situation.

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The mistake that a lot of women make is to start being clingy in the hope that they will be able to hang on to him. This is exactly what you should not do.

What needs to happen now, is that you need to loosen the grip on him.  Stop being the clingy and nagging girlfriend and act like a friend. Stop texting him too many times, stop calling all the time, and stop asking him where he is going and with whom he is going to be with. Calm yourself down, and do not ask him anything about the fact that he is pulling away.

Also, try and not have sex with him during this time, just be friendly with him. If you talk to him, let him initiate most of it and do not pressurize him in any way.

If you can manage to do this, it will put him in a place where he can relax more and realize that you are not forcing the relationship on him. If he can see that you are not nagging him, being clingy, giving him space and not forcing the relationship, he will be able to see the many amazing things about you. He will even remember why he hooked up with you in the first place.

The second he starts to pull away, how you react to it determines what is going to happen to the relationship. I hope now you know what to do when he pulls away, and using this tip can actually save your relationship.

If it becomes clear that he wants the relationship, you should read on tips on how to make your relationship better with your boyfriend.


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